StilettoRambler

WHO ARE YOU TO ME...?  WHO AM I TO YOU?

It is both by design and nature that the brain will go out of its way to heal any disturbances that it may come across within the physical body.

If you have a cut, it starts the process of creating new skin, if your bone cracks or breaks; it jumps into the process of re-constructing it.

The living body’s(brain) optimal performance state for thriving consist of interconnected pieces that function as a whole, and thus it is always striving to be complete, therefore constantly repairing itself or its host.

For me the emotional brain is exactly the same, (also known as your heart self and or soul.)

however unlike the rational brain, the emotional brain is slightly handicapped, in that it does not own the power of regeneration, it can only heal through attraction – or relation.

This brings me to, relationships (of all kinds) and why it’s important to always love and live mindfully of them- or conscious.

Unless you grew up in a cave and have not been exposed to life and all its hurdles, you like many of us, are walking around with a broken “emotional brain” therefore EVERY single relationship you have is an attempt, for your emotional brain to fix itself and become whole.

With that said,

“The people  that you draw to yourself are there to reflect another part of yourself, back to you. As such, each relationship in our lives gives us the opportunity to accept, heal and love another part of ourselves.”

If you believe that you are not worthy of love, or that you are better single than in a relationship, or if you are constantly attracting “broken “people.. Whom  need fixing, then you will in turn attract people whom will not treat you as worthy, and whose emotional baggage (drama), or lack of self- love, you now also have to take on…all this emotional turmoil that you put yourself through daily, all the fights, heartache and misunderstandings is nothing more than  an attempt to heal.

Now all is fair and well with that, its the reason sayings such as " what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" was invented, its why hind sight has 20\20 vision,  and as I have said people are journeys on the road to  self love and  self discovery,

But this post is aimed to plant the seed of mindfulness ….

be  mindful  of the people in your life and their purpose on your journey,

be  mindful of the fact that if you do attract your healing situation or relationship, (and you’re not mindful of why this relationship is in your life, accept it without question and sleepwalk through it. and you thus don’t use it to heal the part of your broken emotional brain, then you will forever find yourself in a vicious cycle of terrible relationships.

And the road to true authentic love and happiness will be nothing but cold and winding.

So I challenge you today,take a second , sit back and have an audit of the friendships and relationships in your life and ask “who are you to me” “ why are you here?” what is the lesson?” or simply “ what am I trying to heal? “

 The growth and lessons from paying attention to your behaviour and relational patterns are ten fold!,

 if  that is , you actually take a minute, recognise the emotional wound that you are trying to heal, whether it be abandonment, trust, fidelity, or self esteem issues, accept it as such and journey through it.

 

The payoff?

 

Well you will find yourself forgetting about how you feel, and you will start steering your ship towards what you deserve.

 

StilettoRambler.