StilettoRambler

Emotionally Unavailable Women...and the men who love them ..OR at least hang around...

 

Him : I really like you and want to get to know you better ?

Her : Now is not the right time for me sweety...

Him : Cool I will just hang around and be her friend.

This post is not for the men that, scavenge around someone whom he is semi -interested in, and then spits her out faster than when gum loses its taste once he “gets” what he wants from her.

This post is for the guy who truly has feelings for a girl who is emotionally unavailable but HE still hangs around.

Guys today I am going to tell you that, when a woman likes you, she likes you- no ifs, buts or maybes, as a matter of fact she knows the moment you walk into the room whether or not you STAND  a chance with her, and for the better part once you lock eyes with her across the floor or room – YOU KNOW IT TO.

 You know exactly about the kind of girl I am talking about:

·         The girl who blows hot and cold… playing the elusive game - gets irritated when you call her too much and then gets upset when you haven’t called her in a few weeks.

·         Tells you she isn’t ready for a relationship and then keeps you as a safety net while she continues to find herself on her dating sprees.

·         The one who describes a relationship as  “ when available means calling her when it suits her”

·         She invites you on dates, makes you pick her up, pay the bill, parades you around as her boyfriend and when the group around enquires she says shyly “ Oh were not together ......wait for it "we are just friends”

·         The one who plays the girlfriend role in your life, but never gives you ALL the perks of actually being the man in her life…its almost a feeling of you’re a great guy ….and I really like you ..,but I am just not sure….then on Friday night..its hey what are you up to…

Once again I have no problem with whatever  you choose to do with your 90 years on earth my issue comes when things don’t work out with her , and you had invested heavily and NoW due this experience other decent ,loving caring women out there get to date the asshole that was strung along by miss single but emotionally unavailable!

So here it is guys, as music soul child would say

  “ I am not to blame for the pain that was caused by previous pussy cats “ so pack up her baggage in the beautiful wrapping  she came in and give it back to her, secondly if a girl likes you there are no if’s buts and maybes. Thirdly just cause she has great hair ,an awesome chest , a gentle touch and shy smile, it doesn’t mean she gets to treat you as option number two!  You my dear homie are not :

·         Her free ride

·         Her wallet

·         Her friends free ride

·         Her warm body on a cold night

·         Her Mr. Right now.

You are a loving , caring gentle soul in a butch macho interior, but still a provider with dreams and aspirations of his own, still handsome, and still someone out theirs prince ,

 So cut the ties,  take your balls back, pack up the crap, ship out the leach and do better.

Then my fellow glam goddesses, could you be as kind and have more faith in the fact that you can do it on your own and by no means do you need to drag some soft hearted smitten man around for your own pleasure, insecurities or other lingering issues,

Think of the sister after you, and what you may be leaving her to inherit, they bruise easily the hunters, and therefore just as we wanted to be treated with love and care and respect, so do they.

Shall we please lead by example?

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