Tuesday 10 April 2012

Relationship Fairytales ........and then we wonder why WE SETTLE!


For as long as i can remember the story started with a women or a girl if you must, Castle , slaves , finest materials , perfect waist, gorgeous Locks, tiny feet,   Rosy cheeks- all the shoes and clothes a girl could want  and lets not forget  (animal helpers especially to help with the chores ...)

But somewhat still incomplete... unfulfilled, not perfect ,  incomplete that is - until prince charming  rides in on his white horse and they live happily ever after - two words BS!

Not only have we been fed this BS from childhood, it continues in romantic comediess and FULL on romance block busters, yeah so the knight doesn't have a horse and he may  be bald- but the sporty red (insert any colour) vehicle his driving while tearing up the world to save his princess, will suffice.

All this spoon feeding makes me wonder:
 "how on earth women have come this far without series issues?"
 and then secondly just how 
 "unrealistic are our expectations of the "perfect partner? " 

In all honestly  the concept of  a princess kissing a frog to turn him into a prince  for me is just to closely related to lowering the self, putting yourself last and settling,  what ever happened to choosing substance in  a man over  materialism.

I  promise you his great body, strong arms, features and bank account will NEVER be able to suffice if he is not a man off substance.

Thirdly-
  • I just need to  state that finding a man does not mean your story ends..
  •  Nor is it an automatic qualifier for a happy ending\
  • Not finding a man doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you,
  • It simply means that you are kissing to many frogs, letting them have there cake and eat it to and ignoring the princes out there.
  • Lastly don't you dare tell anyone you wanted to be treated like a princess by your Mr. Right if you are not treating your self as one.
Floating around waiting for prince charming to come and validate your exsexistence or  make you feel like the exception is not going to make you walk taller, stand higher, climb the corporate ladder faster - or make you seem more special than you already are.

 It should merely compliment you like a new fendi bag, killer heels or little black dress, in the sense that taking these off, or choosing your self enrichment will not make you an less worthy.

  • You don't need to sleep  for hundreds of years and put your life on hold until true loves kiss arrives,
  • You  don't need to be afraid cause you fell in love with what your parents or society may deem a pauper
  • You don't have to have seven men (dwarfs) look after you - you can fend for yourself.
  • if the shoe doesn't fit- get a bigger size
Besides you don't see the princes out there trying to squash their feet in to shoes that don't fit -
Kiss dragons and hope for princesses
Stick around if they don't like your evil step sisters or mothers
Obsess with a mirrors opinion on themselves

So why the hell should you?

 Your thoughts ...?






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