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Stilettorambler- Life Lesson Series – Surrender..allow the changes..Fcuks with the flow.

Que sera sera..whatever will be will be..the futures not ours to see Que sera sera.

Over the years I have learnt that as people we always want to “Handle” things and situations ,

make things happen.....etc  we seem to equate activity with  strength and passivity with weakness..

This very notion is what I have been brooding on for the last couple of days and my lesson to share with you today is that of surrender...surrender surrender..

Many a times, I get put into situations, or a rock and a hard place if you will  and more often then none,  I find that the question people ask  is – “So what are you going to do” a lot of the times I give an honest “ I don’t know, we will have to see”

witch as you can imagine can be quite frustrating to people who need direction or at the least a decision.

Why the lack of activity , why the Que sera sera ?

Well I am convinced that tooo many of us are afraid of surrendering ,  surrendering to the unknown, surrendering to all the possibilities , surrendering to the script...

and i get it, i get it , many of us, and many a times it can be seen as giving up or as mentioned a sign of weakness, oddly enough I find quite a create amount of peace in surrendering,

I find create comfort in not always having to handle the situation,  or having to make something happen etc…

 A great love of mine once told me that an unopened letter will eventually answer itself, and so i with my need to put theories into practice ....thought..- why not take it further.

What about an unanswered question, a problem not figured out? a situation not dealt with..will they not to answer themselves, figure themselves out, handle themselves?

So i went on the que sera quest and i discovered

The idea of letting go, or accepting that in life you have very little control off things is one that gets me into quite heated debates at gatherings, and one that scares the Sh*it out of people..

 but seriously.......get over yourselves.... is  life not suppose to be lived with ease?  should  we not relax through life… why  in the hell the need to constantly  have our fingers on lifes pulse?????!?!!?

We need not constantly seize hold of the Job, situation, relationship… for crying out loud ...

relax!!!!! surrender!!!!!!… live through it, take that finger of its pulse, I promise things will go the way they are suppose to go… 

Think about it for a second

Is our control really necessary to the workings of the world? to the workings of our lifes and surrroundings –

·         Do we have to wake up every morning to ask the universe to let the sunrise?- NOPE

·         When we turn our backs on the ocean, the universe doesn’t mess up and send waves every where?

·         We don’t have to remind our bones to grow every year?

·         We don’t have to command our eyes to blink?

·         Hold seminars to remind flowers to bloom..

·         Or make sure to remind the world to spin on its axis.

• if we dont show up at work, the show will go on
• If we break up, new love will appear...
• When it is our time to pass come hell or high water you will reach your final destination.
• When your pregnancy term is ready the baby will arrive.
• if that relationship wasnt meant for you, it will end.
• you cant controll when a kid will walk or talk ..you get my point

If the universe can do all this on its own, I am sure you need not be afraid to surrender…

realise that your plan for yourself is just a working blueprint

it is not set in stone, surrender to the fact that you don’t have to handle every situation or  better yet create them.

Seriously guys and gals, settings up a date night  with a loved one is great.... but please don’t try and create the romance just enjoy the company.

Stop trying to orchestrate , plan and manuover things,

Practise surrendering to the here and to the know,

surrender to the idea of not having a plan, surrender to the notion of stepping out of the house and having no direction- surrender to going with the flow and having confidence that it will all play out just as it should.

 Stop seeing it as giving up, or giving in..somethings, moments and even relationships in life have a natural shelf life,

and if it has expired surrender to the notion, take the lesson ( if its not clear find the lesson) grow and move on.

Cause if you don’t surrender you are  just saying that you cannot be happy until all your conditions are met…but  heres the catch ....theses conditions may never change ….

So throw away the script, or blue print you have set out , step out today with no direction and if you waver simply hum.

QUE SE RA SE RA..WHAT EVER WILL BE WILL BE.

Your thoughts?