StilettoRambler

Be your own “HELL and High Water”

 

 

 If your job sucks, set up an exit plan and leave it.

There is no great grand purpose to life, there is only to love, live and learn, teach and empower.

 Happiness is not an illusion, what is an illusion is the idea that happiness is some tangible thing or destination or, that one needs to be happy in order to have happiness

If nobody cares about you or loves you, then care about and love yourself, do what you need to do; to feel love and care.

Instead of trying to find love, give it, be it, approach it,  simply put - show up for yourself and stop being a constant complaining, wallowing joy sucking Eve or Adam.

 It's really just grating my highly grateful soul.

There comes a day in everyone’s life where we realize that this world,  is not one for the faint hearted,seriously shift happens very quickly, life changes in a new York minute and before you know it, or by the time you notice it, it’s been three months and all you have spent your precious time doing is feeling sorry for yourself.

I have seen and heard quite a bit of what I deem - mediocre complaints about life, love, work and living,  and I know that we are all familiar with these mantras or at some point in our life’s have been joy sucking Eve’s or Adams.

•           “My work sucks- I am so miserable…”,

•           “There is just not enough money”- I will never have the life I want”

•           “Opportunities are lacking”,

•           “I can’t deal!”,

•           “it’s all too hard!, “

•           “People suck! “ 

•           “I see no purpose…L”

•           “Nobody cares or loves me L”

•           “What’s the point of it all” 

•           “I will never find love”

•           “Happiness is an illusion”

Sound familiar? got one or two in your life? maybe these are "mirror man" statements?

Hear me out quickly; here is what I have to say - to you ..today.

Understand that I do this for the friend that’s too polite.For the husband that’s really trying to stay positive. For people every day that are carrying your constant negativity as their burden of love for you. For your mirror man.

 “PLEASE DO US ALL A FAVOUR AND  OVER YOURSELF -

 SO DAM WHAT, BETTER YET;

“Would you like some tea with your pity party or maybe some cookies?

Now this might be harsh, but if you are a fully functioning human being with an average life, body intact and  of average health, with a roof over your head and a healthy functioning brain; and some semblance of people to call friends , then you have no reason to be a constant complaining, wallowing joy sucking Eve or Adam.

What I require from you in exchange for all the joy sucking..

Is to take a long looong hard honest look in the mirror , and then I want you to choose ( yes chooooose) to  pick your butt  up off from the floor and own up to no one else but yourself.

Listen don't misunderstand me , there is nothing wrong with an off day or a few off  days, everyone needs time to take stock of themselves ; pick themselves up and then move on. 

 But the constant complaining, wallowing joy sucking Eve’s and Adams….. Just grate my highly grateful soul.

Is it really ever that bad?  No seriously is it? Is it?

There is a scene in season 1 of the fixer where Olivia Pope’s dad rips her a fresh one ( youtube it)

In this scene he tells her that “she will get on a plane come hell or high water, that plane representing the end of her problems, him being that hell and high water”

That scene changed my life.

I immediately went and employed my hell and high water emotion solider, to join anger, sadness, joy and the rest of the crew.

And decided that day; that

I will beat Anger - come hell or high water- it will not control me, my actions , decisions or my life

I will stand up to sadness come hell or high water – it will not cripple me or steal my sunshine.

But most importantly no matter what is happening  I WILL show up for MYSELF, COME HELL OR HIGH WATER… ME BEING MY OWN HELL OR HIGH WATER.

Don’t you think it’s time you do the same?

StilettoRambler