StilettoRambler

Bad Boys ... Pack Leaders.. ....Women's relationship crack.

Bad Boys...the elusive charming man,  the untamable man, the exciting , sexy, dangerous ,cool , own rule making , law breaking outlaw that walks with purpose,  is confident and relaxed ...almost to confident , almost to relaxed , denies authority,  makes up his own rules , couldn't give a dam about any ones opinion  , seeks no approval , smells of sexual tension, leads , directs ...breaks scocietle rules ,  the one that makes you feel like the bonnie to his Clyde....

The man that comes with giant warning signs and a plethora of relationship  red flags....... the one who is guaranteed to screw with your head and heart and damage you emotionally for years to come... the one when asked to a group of women gets a 7\10 vote on the voting poles... the preffered man...

The man that has created the verse " Nice guys finish last"

I have to admit, i give bad boys mad praise, these men impress me...they  have the ability to give women just enough crumbs to make them believe that with more effort and time , these ladies will be able to train and shape them into exactly what they want "A Nice Guy"

And while they have that little string dangling and keeping their kittens busy ...........they get to have a fall -back girl and can continue in their pursuit of selfishness... knowing full well ,that they wont change, they may never get married  but just like that great bike, car or leather jjacket...................... you make  great asseory ....................not just too the noches on their belts but also to their bed posts, and therefore will keep supplying these bad boy crazed ladies with enough disrespect, to keep them hovering around and begging for more....gotta love Bad Boys..

Oddly enough  if you ask a women what kind of man she likes , she says "a bad boy", but if you ask her what kind of man she would marry she smiles and says " A Nice Guy" a sweet gentle soul that cares and respects me, is thoughtful and decent and treats me like a princess...

(In the back  of my mind, i am thinking - oh okay, so until then, you will continue to allow yourself to be disrespected and mistreated, become emotionally broken , subject yourself to pain and heartache and then when you are a total emotional mess -go ahean and make your issues , some decent , caring thoughtful " Nice Guys" problem???!?!?!?)

I just dont get why and when accepting anger, aggression and misuse became the staple acts of  - love????, seriously in what world does it make sense to equate disrespect and lack of attention and interest  with love...?!!

Yes that Alpha male thing is darn right sexy but--- come on!!!!

That kind of behaviour cannot be acceptable just because he has  James Dean appeal , John Mayor cokiness and Collin Pheral's body!

Heres the ugly:

• Ladies  your at fault for this, do you know how many times i have seen decent young men turn into these types because "girls like BAD BOYS" ----you would be surprised.
• Accepting this behaviour means that you have some unresolved issues with men that you haven't dealt with,
• Continuing with this behaviour of wanting to be treated like less, only means the you will have more holes in the self to fix when, one day you decide to having a mutually fulfilling relationship
• It means that you really don't have standards and if you do honey they are below par.
• Wake up and smell the coffee, you may be overlooking decent men, cause you are so wired to be mistreated.
• Your caving into your messiah complex - you cant save him, its not your place his brokenness is not your problem .
• Before you take the spec out of his eye take the log out of yours -Fix yourself first
• His not going to change cause of you, don't give yourself that much credit, PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE FOR PEOPLE, THEY CHANGE FOR THEMSELVES ...

Ladies, i can understand that the heart wants to be pursed, that you crave excitement, entertainment, being swept of your feet, and man handled "with care", but simply just bypassing the decent men out there in pursuit for ass holes, doesn't pay it forward for your fellow sisterhood...and for the NICER men out their finding you with so much baggage isn't worth the cat and mouse game.

Lets be honest, Ladies you are smarter then moths, they may not get it that for the 50th timethe flam  will burn, but i know that your smarter, sexier and wiser but mostly i know that you  know better and can do better.

Your Thoughts?