StilettoRambler

THEY TREAT THEIR DOGS BETTER THAN YOU...BUT YOU ARE STILL AROUND

Many of us have heard the saying before - that the way people treat us is the way that we allow them to treat us..."basically we teach people how to treat us."

We guide them through the rule book that is us...with that said whenever we find ourselves unhappy in a friendship or relationship i don't think we realised that it is ALLLLL our doing ... i will say this again i don't think that we realise that it is all our doing..as in...... .You did it to yourself, your unhappiness is a direct consequecne on how you have been teaching the people around you  on the acceptable and the unacceptable.

I have come across it alot, women think that when there lovers are harsh or mean to them , keeping quiet is the better route out, we don't want to poke the bear, sneer back , stand up ,walk out and do exactly as we please, instead we try to silently slink around, make dinner, and then the moment we do get an out..we go bitch and moan to our friends,

What people don't understand is that keeping quite when we are were wronged, or just doing what you have to do for the sake of peace , is telling someone " that the way you are currently talking and treating me is OK"

• Allowing someone to make you  feel like you are not good enough for them ----and you  NOT countering them,  THAT is you saying "honey your so right, "and the way your making me feel like pond scum is totally OK
• Allowing someone to ignore you when you are talking to them and not calling them on it, is you admitting that your points on things aren't that important.
• Allowing someone to be hours late to your date and not mentioning that your angry- is you telling them that you don't have respect for yourself -why should they.
• Allowing someone to lay there hands on you in any other way then with love and care, is you admitting that your body is not a temple so they don't need to treat it as such.
• Allowing someone to flirt with other women in front of you , is you admitting that you don't matter.
• Allowing a man to treat you as a lieing cheating women of the night , and adhering to there rules and restrictions on your life is you admitting that they maybe right and due to the fact that you are so untrustworthy, maybe you should be treated as such.

Unfortunately the sad and ugly truth here is that you are your own abuser, you are beating, and cheating on yourself, and no amount  OF asking why and fighting with your partner or shedding bad light on your partner will take a way from the fact that you are doing it to yourself,.

Scarier even is the fact  that you are not standing up for how you want to be treated ..... AND i am afraid no one else will...you are then left at the Paraels of your own lack of self love and his tiny self esteem-

But if you frequent these pages you will see that i strongly believe that sometimes good people do bad things, and that striving for an authentic life and being aware that when we know better we need to do better is high on my priority list.

Knowing now that you are the captain of your love ship and you are in charge of how and when you will  be loved, as well as how you will not be loved, i would like to give you the permission to put your sexy kitten heel down , or awesome sneakers or comfy pumps and repeat these words :

" HELL NO HONEY,....................................... I DO NT  EVEN TREAT MYSELF THIS WAY, I MIGHT HAVE BEFORE ......................BUT THOSE DAYS ARE SOOO OVER!   AND FROM NOW ON NEITHER WILL YOU .... SO YOU EITHER LEARN TO TREAT ME WITH LOVE AND RESPECT..........................AND  IF YOU THINK THAT WILL BE TO HARD FOR YOU -  THEN THERE IS THE DOOR................. DO NOT LET IT HIT YOUR ASS ON THE  WAY OUT:

Steer your life to one that is filled with, love, care ,respect and happiness, do overs don't come easy, and your to fabulous and precious to not treat yourself that way, never mind allowing others to treat you that way.

Your thoughts?