StilettoRambler

Meaningful overnight Relationships...............The flings without the strings...

Note: The words casual and relationship  in the terms of Love are completely juncxtaposed from each other, if you have ever been in a relationship you will know that there is NOTHING CASUAL ABOUT A RELATIONSHIP.


Friends with Benefits, Casual relationships , booty calls,  the last innings of the evening, or as i like to refer to them as : Meaningful overnight relationships....are all a bunch bull, and taking part in them  makes you an  easy and convenient  joyride for men and women who are single but emotionally UNavailable.

What defines a meaningful overnight relationship? - these are relations where you and a partner are engaged in  or otherwise invested on a temporary irregular basis, they come standard with all the bells and whistles that mimics a relationship.....you hang out  with each other sometimes, talk, listen to each others moans and groans, go to movies .....text ,sext and email as well as occasionally hang out with each others friends, they exist mostly in the dark or within the four walls of your homes, they continue for about 2-5 months and usually end with the words :

" your a great, stunning ,  intelligent xxxxx , i have so much fun with you ,  never  ever have i met someone that i can be so honest xxxx blah blah blah with .....you know i really care about you , but i am just not looking for a relationship right now"

When in the mmeantime you have invested your PRECIOUS TIME ,energy and heart -mimicking a relationship but never really getting what you were looking for.

Don't get me wrong these are very tricky It really is EASY too  leap in AND to believe, that because someone enjoys your company so much, your sleeping with them from time to time, giving them an ego boost, helping hand, shoulder to lean on.......... hell in some of these meaning fulls you even get  introduced to friends and  family, and may elude to the future, so its easy for you to feel that that you’re in a relationship.

Unfortunately i need to let you know that just because some single but emotionally unavailable spends their time with you, rocks your world , takes you  to the occasional  movie it doesn't mean that your in a relationship

It means:

•  That they are using you to fill a gap, or run from an emotion that they don't currently want to deal with,
•  It means that they may like you on some level , but they don't care about nearly enough to engage you in a loving authentic caring relationship,
• It means that you are an easy emotional hit without all the strings that come along with it, your fun with no drama, actions with no consequences .

I know for a fact that it is hard to hear that you have invested time into someone to find out that they just don't feel the same way about you, its gut wrenching and painful, and it is understandable to still want to hang around, and change their minds, it is understandable to seek validation.

But the truth of the matter is, that if someone is that into you , there is nothing that would make them drag you along in the dark , for a joyride, for there fun, there would be no reason to use you as an emotional band aid,

To be very honest time is a very percous thing, once you give it you can never get  it back, and thus i  urge you to not give the "milk for free" make that person buy the cow.

It is pretty simple, we don't invest our time, and hearts in these kinds of relationships, we don't tag along and play the role without the benefits, it would make as much sense as showing up to work on a Monday, clocking in your hours, faxing, emailing, attending countless meetings , and then not getting paid at the end of the month.

You would  NOT waste your blood sweat and tears on a job that doesn't pay OR benefit you , don't waste your heart, time and fabulous self on a person  that wants the fling without the strings...your worth the strings.

Commit or ship out!

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