Authenticity....to be authentic.... to be 100% the real you, i once read a book in witch one of the chapters were dedicated to authenticity.
I was struck by the notion of being exactly who i am....seems easier right? "living my truth " and by so doing..... allowing my light to shine , and in turn allowing others to let theirs ...
So i decided to go on a self improvement voyage, pack my bags , ethos in hand and a road ahead filled with my real wants , thoughts feelings and needs.....i decided to practise authenticity!, for the last three years ..... and my ramble today asks the question:
"Do you really want to know the real me? "
No, really before you answer the question , think for a second....if you really want to know who people really are..? do you think your friendship, relationship OR set of values could handle the "real" them?
My question being , because in the last three years i can safely, attest to the fact that most of us simply just don't, we think we do, but we really don't...
Reason being simply because, we don't even really want to know our own truths.....our own selves , the man in the mirror if i must.....never mind the souls in our realm....seriously lets just admit -
Authenticity is hard...facades are easy...
its too hard to realize that in actual fact you don't really care as much as you should.
its too hard to realize that you aren't as disciplined or ambitious as you think you are.
its too hard to realize that your life is a lie and that,had you been true to your self earlier...you would have :
- Ended that relationship years ago,
- Broke up with those friends lifetimes ago,
- Let go of people that make you an option to there lives.
- Studied what you wanted.
- Not support friends and colleges in rotten relationships.
- Married whom you wanted.
- Divorced when you should've
- Told the truth more, and lie less
- Confronted more,
- Quit your job sooner...
You get the gist ....
You would never enter into a relationship, that was based on a lie, (you know how people try and betray their best selves in the beginning of a relationship ) then spend three months trying to hide the real them- next time STUFF your best self show your real self.
It would be hard to realize that your freak factor (what makes you unique) is actually your ticket to success,
and not all the other junk that we get conditioned to think -( junk like hard work, determination and perseverance) are all LIES! DIRTY CHEAP ...lies ... the most successful people have banked on their freak factor.
So in conclusion i dare you to try an authentic day...but please make sure you are ready ...for your real 100% genuine leather self.
Your thoughts?
What if your "authentic self" is someone that is chicken shit and can't stand up for themselves. Just because someone isn't gutsy doesn't mean they're not authentic, does it?
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