Loyals:
these are the people you can trust to have your back all the time, you can
close both eyes while sleeping and they have got you covered. People that you
may not always agree with on everything but choose the cause and you over all
else.
Reasons:
When
someone is in your life for a reason it is usually to meet a need you
have
expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you
with guidance and support; to aid you physically, or emotionally. They are there for the reason you need them
and will be gone once the reason is fulfilled.
Seasons:
are people who come into your life because your turn has come to share something
life changing with them, to help them
and you grow or to teach you , to stand up for yourself , to love, forgiveness, anger, fun, patience etc. once these are mastered the season
usually ends cause you are no longer needed. Lesson conquered.
Lifetimes:
these are relationships that teach you lifetime
lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation
the deeper things, the harder ones. you fight alot with Lifetimes, your fights are depper, hurt more but you grow. Your job is to accept the lessons and love
the person.
Now thats that’s out the way, lets ramble..
I have come to notice over time
and with the “reason” and “seasons” and “lifetimes” of life lessons (people) in
my life, that a lot of the times, people
in your life can mirror a mirage in the dessert, and that it’s tough to know
right away because as you are walking towards it, it looks clean, and refreshig and comforting even promising, only to actually come to it and find nothing but the illusion of
hope or in this case friendship.
We must be careful who we devote ourselves to , BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE CRAZY AND MEAN AND SELF CENTRTED AND CAN BE POISONIOUS AND failing to differentiate between the (fleeting) and the (misusing ) can be very hurtful and cause a lot of pain, some of the big things that I have learnt over the years and with regards to friendships that I have lost and gained is what I want to share in this post today.
Because nothing PISSES ME OFF MORE! Than reasons
coming and causing shi*t for lifetimes that have supported through the divorces
and the birthdays and the babies, and the job changes and the new loves,
BECAUSE
due to your friends lack of awareness, in terms of whats walking into her life, or due to your own, bridges get burnt and words get exchanged, people get treated silently
and then you lose your lifetimes to instant gratification reasons or drama causing seasons!
urgh!
ANYWAY.
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I found that a lot of time “instant gratification” of affection
and love over shadows those friendship relationships that have been their
throughout the thick and thin, you will very often see a “ Reason” friend getting glorified
and praised over AND above the lifetime friend. Because the reason is now, and
the reason is pressing and at the moment due to tunnel vision the REASON is all
that matters, even more annoying the lifetimes gets treated as the Fake friend
and the reason becomes the “Real” ones.
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I have also found that the Loyals,
the ones that would constantly betray
themselves repeatedly in the name of loyalty love and friendship, can get quite
emotionally abused, because of the seasons , you know ……the Bitches that are so
busy keeping your lifetime pre occupied with their little dramas.
That you land
up barely seeing your lifetime because they are trapped in little miss seasons own
episodes of Eat Pray Love.
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What I have seen too often AS WELL and
what can cause a lot of fights is when your lifetime, suddenly wants you to
take her Reason seriously and become buddies, like “she aint my Reason”, ENJOY YOUR TOY AINT NO BODY GOT TIME FOR FALSITIES.
can we not try and force friendships on each other...
seriously from one lifetime to another, take your time
with your season and
your reason, I will be chilling with the loyals until you have gone through what
it is
you need to and when your over it, and they have come and gone, come over for wine and popcorn
cause you know.... lifetimes..
I for one find this phenomanan highly annoying, so I ask
that one always practices awareness, understand the people that entre in your life,
see why they are there and it will become much easier for you to deal with them
and a lot less painful when they leave.
By all means be the ship that has to travel through the seas of time,
to find itself, respect your journey, find that inner peace but for the sake of
shits and sanity Don’t be the ship
that going through rough seas and lands up losing her there anchors.
At all times just as in love , practice
mindfulness in your friendship relationships, and if you’re a lifetime out there
who is going through some troubles and may now need a reason , or is busy being
there for a season make sure that you stay kind to your loyals and your
lifetimes, because as the saying goes
“Love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant”
Your thoughts
Stiletto Rambler
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