Friday 18 May 2012

Coachroach Affairs..... Vampire love  and why you deserve to be a "DAYWALKER"




Why give them the moon and the stars if they cannot  even give  you sunshine?

Defined as cockroach affairs , because they mimic the behaviour of our friendly kitchen neighbours... just like cockroaches in a kitchen- when the lights go off they...... come out to play .............but ,as soon as the lights get put  back on................ they scatter... sound like some flings you have been involved in? 

My question then to you  would  be: where you the cockroach or the daywalker ?

Vampire love is another of my  favourite terms, the love that exist only under the cloak of night ... that completely cannot exist  in  daylight ..... mostly due to the nature of these affairs..... common amongst married couples ,within relationships  where you both are committed and strangely increasingly during the year before you get married your "engagement year".

People who take on the role of the shadow lover..the night crawler... the ones who sit and love you in silence, these are the people that this post is  for....

love is not silent , love is passionate, love is loud , love is intense, love is an all consuming force, it needs to be celebrated, shouted from the roof tops and publized, allowing yourself to be loved in the dark only... and putting yourself through the rollercoster of pain ...................that is shadow love is you .....quite  frankly,

 Taking a piss at yourself...

I sometimes wonder about people that, get involved in these midnight rendezvous- is it ,
for the thrill?
is there a serious connection between the two of you?
is someone taking adavantage of the other...?
or do you simply just have eyes for each other at night, why is it that we allow ourselves to be other peoples secrets??.........

what in the world makes it ok for you to put someone in a closet?!.... and why in the world do we allow it!!!!!!, are we dabbling with the 20% that may be missing from the relationship, marriage or engagement, or are we deep down inside serious commitment Phoebe's, or do people just have a serious need to self  destruct and destroy what they have around them?

I have come across it alot, when people have ridiculously great relationship, it almost seems to good to be true and before you know it they get involved with nonsense and start to disrespect the integrity of their relationships.

here is  the deal :
  • Stop fucking around....you deserve better
  • You are worth more than being someone's secret
  • You are not a last inning, if he or she cant share the sun with you, why do they get the moon and the stars? no seriously .....
Pull the BS card on yourself if you find yourself intertwined in vampire love, next time say no, mistakes happen and sometimes good people do bad things  but to continually  engage in such a dangerous chess game is not fair on the other party, do your relationship a  favour and leave...., or man up and respect it

loyalty, love, care and respect are important , and if you cant man up to it, don't drag  the other party along on  a journey based on a facade !!!!!

As i have said before, you deserve better, and so do they, and lets be honest secrets of this kind only chip away at the core,  AND are a far cry form being  true to yourself and your journey.

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