StilettoRambler

The Fake Circle of Trust and A step towards self-awareness.

 

 

 It happens quite quickly.....

Life is busy and we meet people and circumstances like kids, and boyfriends or engagements and friends of friends or work puts us into situations where we form relationships with strangers whom slowly progress and become friendships.

Before you know it, you see and share more with your new stranger friendships, you focus on the things you have in common; these become the ties that bind you, and then before you know it there you are in a circle of trust, or so you think because this is the perception being orchestrated.

Time goes by and in your delusion you assume that you have established a great big bond and own yourself a great bunch of friends.

Shift then slowly starts creeping through the woodworks and you land up having to ask yourself questions like....

Are you giving away trust toooo easily? And then land up selling yourself short?

Seriously?

Have you ever been in a situation where you realized that you were TOTALLY delusional about your “Friendship circle of trust” or the other circles that you were floating around in?

Where you were under the impression that because you had welcomed people into yours; that you where automatically a part of theirs?

And then you find yourself hypothetically sitting on a payment sounding as pathetic as that hello song of Adele’s once the truth has set you free?
I have, and it was a great lesson in self-awareness, one that I would like to share with you.

Because, let’s face it, it’s a tough blow to realize that the circle was all a lie or that maybe you where to scared to see the truth of it all.

Over the past few months I have had to take a step back and work out my “Circle of Trust” and the circles within them, in order to help myself to get  an “at glance “view of my own little world (a more truer view if you will.)

The lesson that I have learnt is that, just because someone is in your life alot, and you share many things with them both fun and intimate and motivational caring and all that jazz, it doesn’t mean that they should be in the circle, or that you are in theirs. (Obvious when you think about it I know) but not so clear cut in living colour.

so.

If you have ever been future faked into a “friendship circle of trust” I would recommend looking at your friendship circle of trust, seeing who is in there? and most importantly why they are in there.. … it is a great exercise in building self-awareness because changing the interpretations in your mind allows you to change your emotions.

Changing your emotions, allows you to gain back your power , understand your self worth and makes it easier to let go of the people that no longer need to be in your life or want to be in your life.

Because once we understand our worth and are self aware we need not allow ourselves to sit on payments listening to Adele’s hello on repeat.

If you have been a victim of a future faked circle of trust, don’t be too hard on yourself.

Understand that you may have looked at things through rose coloured glasses, forgive them, forgive yourself and be more protective of your trust and your heart.

But most importantly keep striving to be a genuine authentic person open to mutually fulfilling friendships.

Your thoughts?
StilettoRambler