StilettoRambler

What is a Good Relationship?
 how can we define relationships as great, fun or even envy them?

i often spend alot of tme with alot of different folks ,and wether we be talking about a celebrity relationship, our parents relationships of simply friendships, the word that comes up to often is "They have such a good relationship" "they are so in love"

As usual my head starts to run...."what is a good relationship" seriously what does it look it like?

what charetiistcis  does it portray?
what colour is it?
whats its warranty?
....  unlike other products like cars and Tv's " good relationships" don't float around with  "A features- package" if you will

One thing i am sure on is that love is a big catalyst of a good relationship, but offcourse

 love has different meanings for everyone, i can ask you all to define love, but i dont have that time, so to find a common feeling i am going to settle on the

 feeling of pain  when love is lacking, or its being taken away. moving along

Three days later into reading any and everything i  could get on "good relationships" i finally found the features package if you will:

Good Relationships require real commitment:

• its involves two people with their feet frimly planted in the SHIP, commitment to towards the shared interest and success of the relationship- Not a SHIP where one is loving more than the other, or trying to get the other to get onto their way of thinking--committing together to creating the loving trusting SHIP that you both want

A good relationship requires self love 

•  In order to have a happy relationship and love life , you need to first love and have a relationship with yourself, IF YOU HAVE NOT DATED YOURSELF- YOUR BEING A FOOL BY DATING ANYONE ELSE... unfortunately theirs is just no way you can make sure you have a GOOD relationship if you haven't established how you like to be loved and what makes you happy.\

A good relationship requires you to KEEP IT REAL

• This means that you don't pretend that your SHIP is good, but the windows are    broken
•  communication lines are breaking up and taps are leaking, you and your partner have a responsibility towards the health of your ship. just as you would have over your kids, or favourite garden,
• you need to do quality control checks, do the audits and then fix what is broken in the ship

A good relationship works on real time

• Address issues or argumemtents in real time- DONT GO TO BED ANGRY - you may never wake up to see the next sunrise, so always stay up, talk it out- Adressss the issues in real time.

Seeks not to understand or control but to nurture, love, guide and accept

• This has personal weight for me- it is nearly impossible to understand another human being,NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE  - you would have to have seen  them from birth and see then on a near molecular level
• you don't need to always try to understand each other, simply nurture guide and love another

A good relationship is pain free.

• Love is a great gift, it it giving, caring, adventurous, passionate, without condition, its forgiving , its encompassing. BUT LOVE IS NOT PAIN.

So the bext time the good relationship word gets thrown around, or someone compliments you on having a good relationship...you have an idea of what they see-or atleast what should be reflected.

Your Thoughts?