When a man has an affair, its his attempt to feel powerful again, needed, desired, challenged.
when a women gets involve in an affair its her abusing her power..its the twisted satisfaction of watching another women's man eat out of the palm of her hands.
Its the chance to play the staring role of the kings concubine...
at first glance if you had to see me, i am not your model beauty, i am not tall, my legs are not spectacularly long, and most of their girlfriends are better looking than me, but i am always the last call in the evening, the last text and if i am in the mood a late night tumble in my sheets.
I am the other women, i help your men love you more, be more attentive and stay three months longer than they initially would, this is my fourth relationship with a man that is "attached" but not married, here i am again, and i know i should run for the heels screaming, i know the whole song of deserving better, but still i stand in the doorway of his bedroom door, feet firmly planted, belly clenching and breathing slowing down.
I am the one that gets the trinkets and gifts once more, i am the one he confides in, i am the one in the shadows, the not so obvious girl with more to offer, the one that doesnt need to beg for him to spend time with me,
I get his passion, i console him and sometimes we even talk about you and yours, i am the girl who gets the underwear but not the birthday party invitation, every second with me is not enough, every encounter has him begging for more.
I am the midnight call, the midmorning shag, i am the reason he is working late, or too busy, that is me.
This path is not for the faint hearted or for the needy, i can tell you that much, but the lessons i have learned thus far are irrepalcebale
The less you know the better- his girlfriend has to stay a figment of your imagination
keep your feelings at bay,
continually give yourself a reality check, your feelings have no space in this place,
shes his safe haven and you are his whirlwind,
remember your role, play it well.
Don't ever believe a word he says.
He's going to lie to you. Why wouldn't he? He's lying to her. Oh, you're different? You're not.
You're just the other woman. You're a girl he's not looking to make his future with. You're just the girl he's entertaining in his present. And you will be a part of his past.
Don't flatter yourself with mental lies saying you're what he really wants. You maybe, but you're far from what he needs. He's playing a game....and your allowing it so...
Congratulations, you've successfully made it through your "other woman" experience...my conscience says to me now
Breathe. Cry. Get angry. Move on.
It's now time to focus on you.
Forgive and forget.
You may be thinking, "What do I have to forgive him for? I'm the one who's hurt!" You're right. He did a shitty thing, but so did you.
You've gone through your depression. You've beat yourself up for what you did. You've wondered "what if" more times than you can count. And you're still in the same condition he left you.
Forgive yourself for putting yourself through that. Forgive him for playing both you and his girl. Now forget it happened. Move on with your life.
Realize your self-worth.
You're a beautiful person inside and out. You made a mistake, and you've forgiven. You owe it to yourself to delve deep and figure out what you aren't happy with in yourself.
Whether you don't think you have a good personality, you think you're not pretty enough or not skinny enough: Figure it out.
In the words of Susan Jeffers, "Remove those 'I want you to like me' stickers from your forehead and, instead, place them where they truly will do the most good -- on your mirror."
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