Attention seekers…Coddling needers…are you dating MR or Misses Drama and the why..??!
Ever been in a relationship, or lived vicariously through one that seems to breed and feed of Drama? You must have seen them..,
Scene : 1 Your all having a great time at a friend’s house and then suddenly one of the parties storms out, is upset and starts making demands and threatens the other, after some commotion and a little embarrassment for both, the calmer soul, excuses the couple, they bow their heads and go home?
OR
Scene: 2 One of the parties feels neglected by the other, so they start throwing down shots and start getting louder , flirts with randoms, make fools of themselves on the dance floor …all in an attempt to get noticed and before you know it, you get stuck in a situation where you has have to babysit the other, cause they are now a loud, rowdy drunk and the AA project for the rest of night?
OR
Scene : 3 One of the parties , is ready to call it a night , but the other isn’t, what follows is the other sulking, becoming overly verbal or simply giving the silent treatment and then gets up and simply gets in their car and leaves the other stranded...?
Lastly
Scene : 4 one I might add, that I had experienced a few lifetimes ago, the two of you were pissy to begin with, but you take the leap and meet up with your friends, your avoiding each other all night and socializing with everyone else but each other, drinks off course are flowing, eventually you go home and the fight you put on the back burner escalates in the car, then it comes “stop this car I am walking home!!!!!” the other exists and their you find yourself following your beloved in the car at a slow 20kmh,because they are adamant on walking home…all the while screaming at each other, demanding to – be- left-ALONE while shouting profanities at each other
So there you have it, if you haven’t witnessed it or lived, well done, you haven’t missed much
But if you have, ……here is the ugly …besides the fact that you should pull the get out of jail free card and omit yourself from that relationship, and apart from the fact that this kind of relationship behaviour should not even slightly be tolerated I have come to realize that a lot of people will still push through and try and mend the relationship, that off course being their choice…
The truth however is that, if your relationship consist of 60% drama, and it’s the only catalyst for you to communicate with each other, or to have make – up S*x , it really only means that,
You don’t like your bed empty , so you tolerate this behavior cause you may have already engaged intimately with them, and now don’t know how to get out…., better yet you want a relationship much more than you want the right person, you are insecure (very I might add), your are toooo scared to fail at yet another relationship so you eat the BS and push through or the saddest but carrying the most weight is that you think you can help..
Firstly you cannot change someone who can’t change themselves, your self- love is not near where it should be, so please disengage, you may be trying to fill a role, that they aren’t ready to allow you into, you both haven’t dealt with your mommy and daddy issues, and you may be on the path to a very abusive , or emotionally negative relationship.
Ladies, the drama saga is not cute, and it’s a wasted outfit, as you will land up at home, also you are not impressing anyone, give yourself the attention you need and stop trying to seek it externally,
Guys, you are not her dad, quit the controlling act, she has one to do that for her, and if she doesn’t still not your place to be her behavior police.
If the reason your acting up sooooooooooooo is truly because you feel that the person your dating is not paying a healthy amount of attention to you, and your feeling unappreciated, then address that, and gage whether they are really REALLY ready for a happy, loving committed relationship.
If not, save us all the drama, and the pitty parties, its getting old.
Your thoughts..?
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